Abusers who have basic computer knowledge may be able to track the Web sites that you visit and the documents that you open on the computer. You can erase your internet history so that nobody who uses your computer can see what Web pages you visit.
WARNING! EVEN IF YOU FOLLOW THE DIRECTIONS BELOW YOUR ABUSER MAY STILL BE ABLE TO SEE WHAT WEB SITES YOU HAVE BEEN VISITING OR WHAT EMAILS YOU HAVE BEEN SENDING.
The safest way to keep the abuser from tracking your online activities is to use a computer that he or she does not have access to. This could be at a public library, a friend's house, or at work. If you are sending an e-mail message asking for help, make sure you use an email account with a password that the abuser does not know.
If you must use a computer your abuser can access, you can attempt to cover your tracks by doing the following:
Below are directions for clearing cookies, temporary Website files and the browser History. For information, you also can refer to your software “Help” menu or technical support.
You may want to make it a habit to clear History whenever you visit any Website, rather than making it an unusual action only when you visit a partner abuse Website. By clearing your History you will not harm your computer in any way. However, should your abuser click on History, he/she may realize that you or someone has deleted the history records. If this happens, and you are the only other person using that computer, a good reason to give for your actions (if necessary) would be that you heard or read that by deleting these temporary history files your computer would be faster and waste less disk space, which is true.
Figure out what web browser you use: The name of your web browser should be displayed in the title bar of this window. For example, it would say "Sanctuary for Families - Microsoft Internet Explorer" at the top of this window if you are using Internet Explorer. Or it would say "Sanctuary for Families - Mozilla Firefox" if you are using Firefox.
Cookies and Temporary Website Files: The directions below describe how to clear temporary Website Files. Usually in the same location is a tab to Clear Cookies, as well.
INTERNET EXPLORER 5.XX, 6.XX, 7.XX FOR WINDOWS
Browser software usually keeps a chronological history of all Web pages that you visit while online. For your safety, you may want to delete the record of Web pages you have visited. It is a very simple process that will not in any way affect your computer other than to erase the fact that you have visited certain pages.
WINDOWS 95 AND HIGHER
The History can be cleared in two ways: either one item at a time or all items at once. To clear one item at a time:
Utah-After Governor Herbert did the ceremonial signing of the new law, Utah Representative Jennifer Seelig thanked all the Utahns who lobbied for the passage of the “Dating Violence Protection Act”. Seelig spearheaded the recent effort to get the law passed. “This took ten years to pass,” said Seelig who credited a grass roots lobbying effort.
The new law enables a victim in a dating relationship to petition the courts for a protective order if she is hurt or abused by the person she is dating. In the past, the law said only victims who were
co-habituating or married to the perpetrator could petition for protective orders.
The law protects men but by far, women are most often victims in dating relationships. “When we don’t like our partner’s behavior, we have the right to leave,” said Brandy Farmer with the Utah Women’s Lobby.
Farmer, a survivor of domestic violence, said often in dating violence relationships a woman who wants to leave is threatened, hurt or stalked by the perpetrator/dating partner. “Everyone has the right to feel safe,” she added. Seelig said that between 2004 and 2011 fifteen violent dating deaths occurred in Utah.
If Friday’s headline “Third of women in world suffer domestic violence” wasn’t startling, the statistics that accompanied the story should be: 40 percent of women killed worldwide were slain by an intimate partner; 23 percent of women in North America have experienced physical or sexual violence perpetrated by an intimate partner; and one in five women in the U.S. say that they are victims of rape or attempted rape, with half being from an intimate partner.
The reoccurring theme, of course, is assault brought on by a husband or boyfriend, i.e. domestic violence.
This means that the biggest murder risk for women worldwide is from an intimate partner.
These statistics are derived from a study conducted by the World Health Organization. They provided the first major review of violence against women worldwide, based on studies gathered from 1983 to 2010. The study’s most significant finding was that about a third of all women have been assaulted by a current or former partner. While the definition of domestic violence my vary across the globe, the WHO defines physical violence “as being slapped, pushed, punched, chocked or attacked with a weapon,” and sexual violence “as being physically forced to have sex, having sex for fear of what the partner might do and being compelled to do something sexual that was humiliating or degrading,” according to a story provide by The Associated Press.
It’s scary to really consider these numbers, and the U.S. is not immune to this statistic. While 37 percent of women have experienced physical or sexual violence in Africa, the Middle East and southeast Asia, close 23 percent have experienced it in North America. Western culture is often considered progressive in terms of defining violence against women, but that doesn’t mean that physical and sexual assault isn’t occurring at an alarming rate.
It’s equally scary how such violence is handled in a medical sense.
Shelia Sprague of McMaster University in Canada, who has researched domestic violence at orthopedic clinics, told the AP that, while it is unlikely that a woman affected by assault would tell her medical provider initially, “Over time, if the women are coming into a fracture clinic or a prenatal clinic, they might [say] they are suffering abuse,” if they are asked. Assessment of abuse should be protocol for such clinics, especially for women who repeatedly return for such problems as broken bones, bruises and lacerations.
These issues should be handled in both a physical and mental sense. More resources provided to women through health care and insurance would help to drive down the rapid rate of domestic violence occurring across the world.
Women are six times more likely to be murdered by their partner than men are. In order to eliminate such a tremendous epidemic, we need to foster a culture that responds.
Medical caregivers need to inquire about abuse and intervene when needed; neighbors and friends need to react to signs of domestic violence; and women need to be informed and know that they live in a society that wants to stop domestic violence and protect them from their aggressors.
After reading these reports it has become clear that, medically and legally, the U.S. needs to reevaluate the way it handles physical and sexual assault against women.
Do you know someone in a battering relationship?
Do you suspect that a friend, relative, or someone you know is being abused?
If so, don't be afraid to offer help - you just might save someone's life
Here are some basic steps you can take to assist someone who may be a target of domestic violence:
Adopted from "Domestic Violence: The Facts" A Handbook to STOP VIOLENCE" Courtesy of Peace At Home (formerly Battered Women Fighting Back), Boston
Domestic Violence is a leading cause of injury to women in the U.S. with a 60% chance of a victim being assaulted by their attacker even after law enforcement is involved.
This happened to my dear friend Amber Schinault on July 21, 2012. Even after a protective order was in place, it still was not enough to keep her murderer away.
It feels like yesterday when I received the call from my dear friend. She told me “you’re not going to believe this it’s like from a movie.” Right then I knew it had to be something out of the ordinary, but I wasn’t expecting what she told me. She explained to me that her boyfriend she’d been dating just over a year tried to throw her down the stairs and pushed her around. This surprised me because I’ve hung out with them both a few times and he seemed so nice. She told him to leave but he came back later that night and continued to push her around.
She was assaulted by a vehicular 1st degree assault; she had both hands needing extensive reconstructive surgery. He dropped her off at the hospital that same night where she began treatment. She yelled to the nurses repeatedly to call the police and that he had hurt her. After her repeated cries for help they called the police. As soon as she was out of the hospital I went over her house to visit her. I remember sitting poolside talking about what had happened and catching up with everyday life. She told me that her mother took her to the court house, bandaged hands and all, and was awarded a restraining order. She also was working with The House of Ruth who was helping her out financially because due to staying in the hospital she lost her job. She stayed with her family while she was healing. She had a love for animals. She performed many rescues to help find homes for animals.
She herself had four beautiful dogs that were being help taken care of by friends and family. Her plans were to find foster homes for a couple of her dogs and to move out of the house she lived in and find a new place. She knew she couldn’t take all of her dogs with her. That same day we went over to her house where an unmarked police car sat in front for safety. She showed me where everything had happened. Then we walked the dogs in the fenced in backyard, fed them, and freshened their water before heading back.
I kept contact with Amber throughout her surgeries and helped to keep her spirits up. She became so strong from what had happened and I was proud of her for everything that she was doing. She was so happy to be living life free and away from the abuse.
The last time I saw Amber was on her birthday June 27th 2012. Her family had a small birthday party for her at their house. Friends and family came to wish her happiness and we all had a wonderful time. We kept in contact the next couple weeks. We tried to make plans to get together again but with her pain from healing and busy schedules we weren’t able to.
On July 23rd 2012 I received a call that I would not have ever been expecting. I was told Amber is no longer with us. A million things went through my mind at once. I was told that Amber had gone back to the house to start packing and to spend the last time she had with her dogs. He had entered the house when she wasn’t there and was waiting for her when she came home. My dear friend Amber was murdered.
So many questions came through my mind like everyone else’s that was a friend or family member of Amber. I thought what if there was something better than a piece of paper to keep people like this away from harming other people. I started researching programs and came across
“GPS Tracking for Domestic Violence.”
I saw how Maryland introduced a bill for this program in 2010 but 13 voted no and 8 voted yes.
Some of the concerns were who was going to fund this or will this leave false hope for the victims.
I’m helping to gather more research and bring more awareness to re-introduce this bill. With all the technology that we have, we should have something better in place. My first start is this petition to prove that people are concerned and are for this program.
Thank you for reading Amber’s story.
When Pain Begins At HOME: Albany's Domestic Violence Court Grew Out Of Concern That System Was Failing Victims (A Must Read)
At 10:28, Jorge Camargo stepped up to the bench in Judge William Carter's court.
Camargo was charged with third-degree assault; he'd been arrested after he allegedly slapped his wife. An argument had begun when she asked about text messages from another woman on his phone. She told police he started yelling, then pulled her hair and scratched her face, leaving a 2-inch mark on her right cheek.
That day, a fairly typical Wednesday in May, Carter's court heard the cases of 40 alleged offenders, all charged with committing crimes against their intimate partners. Since Albany's domestic violence court was established in 2005 to serve this city of just under 100,000, Carter has heard 6,284 domestic violence cases.
Camargo, clad in jeans and an Aeropostale T-shirt, stood slackly before Carter, his shoulders relaxed. He explained that he had struck his wife's face accidentally as he attempted to take the phone from her.
An accident, Carter replied, was not illegal. "If you did slap her, you need to admit it," he said, a stern but still soft-spoken presence in the courtroom. Carter was elected a City Court judge in 2003. Before that, he worked as an assistant district attorney for Albany County, a capital defender for the state Capital Defender Office, an assistant attorney general for the state and a state trooper. When he was asked to head up the city's new domestic violence court back in 2005, domestic violence wasn't a particular personal interest. But from where he sat on the City Court bench, he saw a definite need.
Eventually, Camargo made an admission: "I shoved her and grabbed her phone from her," he said.
Camargo pleaded guilty to a reduced charge, and a protective order was issued barring him from any illegal contact with his wife.
"Domestic violence court is really all about accountability," Carter said that day after court.
The concept of domestic violence courts began to catch on in the 1990s. At that time, the court system was trending toward the development of "problem-solving courts," such as drug courts, with separate dockets and specially trained judges. Simultaneously, domestic violence was becoming viewed increasingly as a matter for the courts rather than an issue between husband and wife.
The country now has more than 200 criminal domestic violence courts, with more than 30 percent of them in New York state.
New York's first domestic violence court, the Brooklyn Felony Domestic Violence Court, opened in 1996. Since then, more than 60 courts have opened in New York, including in Troy, Glens Falls and Saratoga Springs. Albany's court would follow almost a decade after Brooklyn's court first opened, established in hopes of clamping down on a key issue surfacing in local domestic violence cases.
"Orders of protection weren't being issued or enforced," Carter recalled. In other words, no one was holding abusers accountable.
"There was a whole change in New York state with the criminalization of domestic violence, and this was part of it," said Lisa Frisch, executive director of The Legal Project, an arm of the
Capital District Women's Bar Association. The Legal Project, along with other community stakeholders, such as Equinox, an Albany nonprofit that provides services for domestic violence victims, among other things, began the local movement to establish a domestic violence court in Albany. They eventually tapped Carter, then a City Court criminal judge, to head the court. The court opened with the help of a $473,000 federal grant. Its existence was briefly threatened in 2007 when that funding was not renewed. Recently, the court was awarded a nearly $400,000 grant by the
U.S. Office of Violence Against Women to study ways the court can become more effective.
At the time the court was being planned, Frisch worked for the state Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence. Domestic violence cases were getting lost in the regular City Court calendar.
"When you're in the system, you just see these cases go nowhere," she said of domestic violence cases before the court was established. "Something had to be done."
By having a specialized court and judge to focus only on domestic violence cases, so the logic goes, the court can be more in tune with issues particular to domestic violence and thus render justice more effectively. Domestic violence cases are often complicated simply by virtue of being matters that revolve around interpersonal relationships and human emotions. Frequently they also are hindered by a lack of concrete facts or documented evidence, making them difficult to prove.
Later that morning in Carter's court, and at least a dozen defendants later, the assistant public defender requested whether his client might complete an anger management program rather than the batterers' intervention programs Carter often prescribes.
"We don't do anger management," he replied.
Later, he explained: "If it was an anger issue, he would act out with other people, like his co-workers ... it is an issue of dominance and control. The behavior is directed only at his intimate partner."
Carter has received significant training, both formal and informal, in dealing with domestic violence since the court first opened. It's an education that never ends — in the fall, he is attending a workshop in Atlanta hosted by the National Judicial Institute on Domestic Violence. Specific assistant district attorneys and public defenders also practice in his court, ensuring that the lawyers he works with are well-versed in domestic violence.
Another key component of domestic violence courts is an emphasis on providing resources for victims of domestic violence. In Albany's domestic violence court, advocates from Equinox work in partnership with the court. In court, there are also representatives from the Albany Police Department's domestic violence unit and Albany County Crime Victim and Sexual Violence Center. The court is a collaborative effort between law enforcement and the advocacy community, which often play a critical role by offering victim support and domestic violence expertise.
Evidence suggests that domestic violence courts do a better job holding abusers accountable. A study of New York's domestic violence courts released by the Center for Court Innovation in February found that domestic violence courts reduced average case processing time to 197 days from 260, significantly increased conviction rates among male defendants and reduced rearrest rates among convicted offenders. The study also found that domestic violence courts were more likely to issue sentences against abusers that included incarceration.
Carter's court handles mainly misdemeanor cases, but he is also an acting state County Court judge, so he can preside over some felony cases. Most of his defendants have been charged with crimes such as criminal contempt, assault or harassment; sometimes, the charges are things like criminal obstruction of breathing (or choking). On Wednesdays, he hears new cases, Thursdays are devoted to compliance hearings. Other days are typically spent in trial, conference or pretrial hearings.
At 11:44 a.m., shortly before court broke for lunch, Lawrence Herring took his turn before Carter.
Herring was already serving time in the Albany County jail when he violated an existing no-contact order by phoning the protected party. Herring pleaded to a misdemeanor criminal contempt charge for the offense. He was sentenced to one additional year in jail.
The prosecution conveyed to Carter that the protected party had requested to alter the order so as to allow some contact instead of none. Carter denied the request.
Herring was distraught. He had violated the first order only a few days after it had been issued.
"I can't even talk to her?" he asked the judge. The answer was no. A no-contact order was printed and given to Herring to sign — meaning no calls, texts, visits or any other form of communication.
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Houston, TX -Last week Prezton Edwards, 16, vowed that he would fight to the death to defend his mom from an estranged boyfriend who continued to threaten her after she broke off the relationship, according to friends.
“And he even said a couple days ago I would die before I let that man do anything to my mother,” said Edwards’ friend Natasha Davis.
Edwards was true to his word. Baytown Police say he died early Monday morning trying to save his mom from an attack by Dene McCarter, 43, at his mom’s apartment at E. James Street and Kilgore Road.
Police said McCarter calmly walked into the apartment and attacked Tanya Edwards, 39, in her bedroom. Prezton Edwards reportedly jumped on the attacker’s back in an attempt to stop him and was stabbed in the neck. Police said that after McCarter walked away, the 16-year-old stumbled to the apartment complex sidewalk and died in a neighbor’s arms.
“The boy was bleeding just profusely,” said Chase Maynard who tried to save the teen. “I just took my shirt off put it around his chest and just held him and unfortunately by the time the paramedics came he was gone.”
Maynard said McCarter then calmly walked to his truck and drove away.
“He just walked right out just as calm as can be after killing somebody,” said Maynard.
Tanya Edwards was rushed to Memorial Hermann in the Texas Medical Center where Baytown Police say she was in ICU in guarded by stable condition with as many as 20 knife wounds.
McCarter was arrested hiding in his truck under a Gulf Freeway overpass near downtown Houston. Detectives said the suspect surrendered without a struggle, and he was transported back to Baytown for questioning.
Only KHOU 11 News was there as McCarter was taken into custody under Interstate 45 early Monday morning.
McCarter had been threatening his ex-girlfriend ever since she’d broken off their relationship three weeks ago, according to police.
Friends, who by Monday afternoon began placing flowers and balloons at the site where Prezton Edwards died, said he was a student at Ross S. Sterling High School in Goose Creek CISD.
“It was just crazy. I was so heartbroken,” said friend Dezalai Cormer as she stood at the blood-stained spot on the sidewalk where her friend died. “I don’t wish death on nobody.
But I hope they execute him. I don’t want him living on this earth no more,” she said of the suspect.
Monday afternoon McCarter was jailed on charges of murder and aggravated assault.
Jordan Prater said he will always remember his friend.
“He’s always been a hero and that’s the way he’s going to stay remembered,” Prater said.
Lana Morris died Wednesday, June 5, 2013 in Queens, New York. Police say she was gunned down on the street near her home by her 33 year-old husband, a NYPD officer, because she wouldn't cook dinner after returning home late from work as a school safety officer.
They say that after he killed her, he returned to their home and shot himself in the head. Sources say that in May, after a domestic dispute involving Lana, the NYPD had taken her husband's police-issued weapon and he was ordered to turn over all guns in his home due concerns about his behavior, but he was not charged with a crime because Lana was not seriously injured.
They say he was, instead, given a "do not harass" order telling him to behave himself. Lana is survived by a daughter.
It was eerie and sad at the same time when I came to Diane's house on 2/11/2013, 4 days after she was murdered, to found this note she wrote 2 years ago. She was going to help me with my 501(c)(3) Not-For-Profit, The Dollicia F. Holloway Memorial Foundation. She was going to plan a fundraiser to honor my Aunt(who the foundation is named after)50th anniversary of being a Jet centerfold.
We were going to raise funds to help create scholarships to assist H.S. Seniors to go to college in her memory. Needless to say, my heart is full to know my Aunt's Foundation is now covering your memory, Diane, through your Educational Resource Fund, to create scholarships for children of victims of Domestic Violence. May both of your souls rest in richly peace, beyond the river, in Paradise. God bless you.
Dollicia F. Holloway(July 11, 1944-January 1, 1971)
Diane L. Parker(October 18, 1970-February 7, 2013)
Dollicia's death came 42 years before yours, as you went to Glory at age 42..But, I'm remind it took 42 generations for Jesus Christ to come into the World.(Matthew 1:17) to seek and save those from the hands of death, hell and the grave. Now you both are angels, rejoice in the Presence of God,
the One who took you unto Himself!
Love you & miss you both,